I am allergic to a false sense of urgency
And yet I still catch myself, from time to time, placing an unconscious false timeline (aka expectation) on when something “should” be done or “should” arrive. I see this in myself in dating & work, two areas where I’m in an evolving study & practice.
The “Should” is my clue that the Ego has got the best of me and I’m out of alignment w my Center, my Peace, my Knowing that what’s meant for me will arrive & that I am meant to move and take action from an internal impulse rather than external demand or false impression of “need”
Urgency is bred from a perceived need to Control
It is rooted in Fear, usually in a Fear of Scarcity or Lack or Not Enoughness
Urgency crimps the hose. Locks down. Prevents what’s meant to flow to and from you in divine timing and limitless exchange from being realized
When I catch myself operating from false urgency, I follow these steps:
1 - Pause. Breathe. Notice where my physical body is in space & time to relocate myself in the Present and not some imagined future
Sometimes I’ll do a quick “Hands Feet Seat” meditation to really settle back in if I’ve been off to the races (see my IG Live for a recording)
2 - Inquire. What am I trying to control here?
Is this really an urgent thing or am I caught up again in external demands and timelines that are not actually real and true?
3 - Reflect. What is underneath the urgency? What do I fear? What is the story underneath here?
Sometimes I’ll journal about this or just sit inside the feeling, locating it in my body, and let whatever guidance rise up from within
Usually there’s some story I’m believing where I’m somehow not going to receive what I need so I have to push to “make it happen”
Or there’s a story that I’m not enough as I am or if I do something faster or appear more perfectly I’ll avoid judgment & somehow fawn or people-please my way into being thought of and perceived a certain way, as if I have any control over other people’s feelings & what they think or say or do.
EXHAUSTING.
LET GO.
What if How Soon is Now became a Prayer of Remembering to be Present, Accepting, and Grateful for What Is Here and Now?
Urgency is a false hope that you have any control over anything in life.
Hallelujah.
We don’t.
Surrender.
This is Living in The Unknown. Living inside The Mystery.