Anger is perhaps one of the most sacred, misunderstood, and controversial emotions in the spectrum of human experience. Our hegemonic cis-gender norms assert the belief that anger is "too dangerous" for girls to have, so they are "allowed" to be sad, and boys aren't allowed to be sad but can be angry as that suits this outdated notion of "masculinity." This contortion alone feeds so much of the unconscious reproduction of anger and its discontents in our society.
On a personal level, many of us first learned about anger in our childhood homes and neighborhoods. We may have physically, emotionally, or psychologically experienced its expression with trauma and wounds visible and unseen. As adults, we may not know how to relate to this energy when it comes up within … So we stuff it down with over-eating, numb out with Netflix, or perhaps "slash and burn" relationships in outbursts we later regret. Anger is a signal of boundaries crossed, a call for love over betrayal -- from others, and from ourselves. Anger is a signal of love disappointed, and a portal to deep healing, repair, and soul-level alchemy to forgiveness and self-love.